CAN YOU HEAR ME PLEASE Contrary to my age and inability, I jump and leap up the stairs with all my Herculean efforts, To have a quick peep into my mother’s room with a bleeding heart and a head full of compressed torments!! Oh it hurts!!! For years in succession, I have been watching, gulping down and constantly on tenterhooks, The untold physical sufferings and sea of troubles that she is enduring .Not a drop of water flows down my throat! My heart brims with content and a thousand beams lit up my face. My Mom will survive another day. She looks Fine!! While talking loudly to her in the ear, I carry on with all my daily chores with a vivacity never undermined! Mom can never speak nor turn a finger on her own. What matters! She is much alive yet another day. My gain! She has become a baby. Through endless talking, singing, caressing, laughing and crying, the day goes off with full sunshine!! Quintessence of good nature, pleasing manners and above all her bosom full of love, for us, she was the most unpretentious Mother!! A faint mental indisposition slowly dragged her into the dismal abyss, the most dreaded Dementia which sucks away all together, The resources of the brain, gradually, in a methodical manner, so rudely so treacherously, under our watchful eyes and careful scrutiny!! A TREMOR!! With umpteen hands and hearts, flowing with help in abundance, I tried to save her from the silent killer! Impossible, I cried louder and louder!! Can you save her from forgetting the daily chores? Can you save her from forgetting the names of her beloved ones? Can you save her from forgetting to eat, drink, read, write, talk and smile on her own?” NO". I kept chanting to myself" Yesterday she was better". Oh silence!! I am losing my Mom day by day, to that Demon, with my hands chained. My body shudders and goes numb at hearing my inner voice. Plagued with bitterness!! I wring my hands, weep and gnash my teeth, bathe in tears just to watch my Mom transforming herself into a newborn babe. Let bygones be bygones!! To keep the remaining memory alive, Dementia calls for continuous interaction with many more new faces and new voices other than the familiar and stereotyped! Hiding my despair, I used to engage in non-stop ripples of laughter, fresh smiles, a very sunny and bright atmosphere and a galaxy full of attractive posters, which might catch my Mom's eyes!! Any visitor is a Godsend delight! The piling odd jobs cause nightmares, but still I keep looking at the door for a guest, who is indeed a welcome guide!! If not I, somebody may open her eyes, which remain closed for endless hours! From today, Ma is not able to open her eyes even!! I keep gaping at her with my mouth wide!! A Drought hit land, will regain the milk and honey when the showers make magic. But Mom's bountiful stocks of her brain had withered once and for all! The paucity for movement, speech and all the other innumerable nuggets of expressions had become permanent. A hunchback had formed for my Dad, who was standing tall! The Doctor's medicines, prescribed with the utmost concern, preponderance and prudence, worked wonders during unimaginable dire situations, bringing back the Elixir Of Life to my Mom's fall! A Fine -Tuned lady, she was, my Mother never gained back the forgotten conversations, or the memories of her house and her near ones!! "Please call me by my name Ma. Do not push yourself to the  wall". But we did not let go the days as plain as a pikestaff!! With profound help from stretched out hands, Dad and myself strained our every nerve with verve and vigor. We took Mom out to breathe the fresh air, to capture lots of sunshine and meet many more new smiling faces. Mother could neither respond nor move an eyelid. But her inner self was still alive. That  domain, "The Towering and Overpowering Dementia" still did not conquer!! Transferring my Mom into a wheel chair, we kept strolling her into several parts of the house the entire time keeping her connected with music and rapid loud conversations. My hands were always on her,  though my thoughts wandered, in search of an Oasis for my Mother! Happiest were the days, when I had always cuddled, teased, talked incessantly, questioned, answered, hugged her close for hours and begged her to come back to normal. Contrary to her dwindling  memory, Mom and I cherished a rapport that will last forever!! Before the PHANTOM was looming large, and my Mom was losing her radiance, God had descended on our minds to warn us of the danger murking large with numerous poisonous fangs!! But ALAS! Beyond our myriad sincere pains, my Mom got herself entangled in the most complex whirlpool, unknowingly going through a very smooth transition from the very best to the worst of  times!! Mom had lived and experienced a lot of greener pastures, and fully basked under the unlimited affectionate showers of her husband, my Dad, who had made a mark in the map of Heaven, with his snow -white smiles! Still, of all the hazards and shortfalls, Mom lived a life cascaded with love and protection, from her children and grand children. God was indeed cruel to her. He inflicted daggers in my heart by making  me watch the mortifying transition, my flesh corroded with appalling stings!! Mother was bedridden for a span of seven years and passed away in January 2010. My INTENTION is to ward off the danger some of your Moms may go through. My Mother was 79 and I am 54, yet the search for her lap full of warmth and passion is never ending. Loved ones clutch my hands with the assurance of the ROCK of Gibraltar, to come out of the groove. Dementia the rival unsurpassed, had brought in, Seizures, Pneumonia, Hypo-Glycaemia, Parkinson's, Hallucinations and a battalion of other disorders, for my Mother, even the names unheard of! TRUE!!! I REQUEST YOU "THE YOUNGER GENERATION" NOT TO LOSE YOUR MOM AS I LOST! WITHDRAWAL SYMPTOMS AND INCOHERENT SPEECH ARE THE FOREMOST CULPRITS FOR SURE!! I have a few thoughts about our strong bonding with none other than the "Official Partner" in our life. THE GREEN TEA!! Socialization eradicates loneliness. Green Tea stimulates the mind for productive  interaction and unconfused state of mind! We can make a start!! Succulent and exotic, the brewing flavor invites you to gulp down the aromatic liquid and instantly become ecstatic!! The Black Mockery, The Enormous Red Carpet of Treachery and The Yellow Pangs  Of Instability slowly disappear, making us smarter!! The All Pervading Blue Patches of Suppressions and Depressions that form the Main Database for the most uninvited ailment Dementia alias Departure From Normal Life will be scurried fast from our  Cerebrum and Cerebellum and flushed into the gutter with a startle!! The focused beginning will enable us to rebuild the broken castles and breakthrough all hassles to emerge as the strongest minded citizens. True experiences from my heart!! Old age can still be as fresh as a daisy, when we do not cocoon ourselves into solitude. Shunning away the communication from our closest to our bosom, when they are away from us. Nothing is lost. Physical and mental disabilities are part and parcel of the package that we have brought with us, when we were born into this world. On our health they should not have a crush!! Distances are shortened by technological inventions. Why cannot we swim with the tide, take a favorable turn and reap a good harvest? Acquaintances strengthen the bonds of harmony. Let us fight to  the finish!! When the wind and weather permits, let us sail to safety, setting an example for the youngsters by proving that “OUR MENTAL AND PHYSICAL HEALTH ARE IN A FLOURISH"!!	Click to purchase Print 194751 0